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Dear Edukatorz,

Help, I have no game! I’m a 26 year old female and whenever I start talking to a guy at the bar I become super awkward and have absolutely no game. It’s weird because I’m not awkward any other time.  Can you please make a ‘How to Have Game’ presentation for me? Or at least tell me how not to be awkward.  Lord knows that I need that lesson ASAP.

Dear Long Island Law,

This is a problem that dudes are surprisingly unaware of – women can in fact be just as awkward and game-less as men can be. We all know that awkwardness is the enemy of awesome and everyone should always strive to be awesome. While we don’t doubt that you’re awesome, it’s not always easy to let go of the awkwardness. We’re going to start work on a ‘How to Have Game’ presentation, but in the mean time we’ll give you a couple of tips on how not to be awkward.

First thing you need to do is relax. The number one problem awkward people have is that they’re too wound up and care too much about what a stranger thinks of them. Just relax and go with the flow.

When someone approaches you at the bar (assuming you want to talk to them) act like you’re talking to someone you know, but haven’t seen in a really long time so you have to catch up, i.e. tell them about yourself. You’re not awkward around people you know, are you? This will help the conversation flow and it’ll prevent stops in the conversation.

Pay attention to your body language. Don’t fidget, seem too closed off or look down this will only make you look awkward. If you’re relaxed you won’t have this problem, but if you can’t get yourself to relax you’ll need to fake it with your body language. Make eye contact with the person you’re talking and enjoy the conversation.

We hope this helps out temporarily while we put some presentations together!

-The Edukatorz